The Family Baby Shower – If I Want to or Not

You all know my love of anime and all of the other things that are seen as being childish. I think once you hit adulthood though, if that is still bothering you then there are bigger problems that you need to address before you consider exploring that topic. That isn't what I am writing about today. And at the same time it sort of is.

I have never really thought about it, it never really bothered me. Sure people thought that it was silly, that I was wasting time and money with my hobby, but it is my choice on both accounts to decide what I want to do with either. This usually ends the conversation when I am so blunt, but if they feel that it is their place to try and "change my mind" or lecture me on the subject then they should also be old enough to know what I think.

Oddly enough they are not.

Now that my SO and I have been married for a couple of years (and I am lucky enough to have a husband that not only supports my hobby but enjoys it as much as I do). Now, snap back to reality, and the impending birth of my new niece/nephew, the gender has yet to be revealed, my sister-in-law who is a "serious type." I quoted serious type, but that is my husband speaking. She is the type of person that likes to make herself seem important, and that means anything that she disapproves of is sub-par. And while I believe that everybody has the right to their opinion, it does not give you the right to be opinionated. I have never really shared anything anime related, nor does she know how extensive my Pokémon collection is. Though I due suspect that my brother has informed her to some degree at least.

But whatever, it really doesn't matter.

What does matter is that I have magically been signed up to do her baby shower. I mean, sure we've talked, but I wouldn't call us exactly friends or anything. I mean she has a best friend, but it is too much of an inconvenience for her right now. She also just had her baby and it wouldn't be "acceptable to ask her to do it." But it is alright to ask me.

My mom is like that.

I am working full-time, and I am getting stressed with my last year of college. But hey, let's have your sister Kendall do it. She doesn't have anything to do. Well I am not a stay at home mom, if that is what your definition of busy is. And sure I can spend weeks getting the gender reveal set up. I wish they would just cut the whole thing down to a more manageable event. Apparently the hostess has to pay for the thing, do all of the work, but doesn't get any say in what is actually planned. I sort of call bull on that. But my husband thinks that I should just go ahead with their "plans" (some would call them by another name) and make the baby shower a nice experience for everyone involved. Well, sorry to break it to you, that will be for one, impossible. And for another thing I really don't think that she will appreciate it.

I thought that if I would ever host something like this I would actually be appreciated for the effort and I would be happy for the honoree.

But maybe I am being negative about the whole thing.

I just wish that I would have been asked about hosting the thing ahead of time.

My mom is like that. (But then you may have gotten that already.)

It isn't like I am really against the idea. In fact I feel like it could be a lot of fun. Sure, I am an optimist. I know thought for a fact that they can actually be enjoyable. I have been to a couple baby showers. Mostly when I was younger, and while it may have been because I was a teen at the time I found them a lot of fun. And while I wouldn't have been capable of hosting one at that time, I probably would have found the idea great.

Right now I think that the biggest problem is that I am expected to host it, but not allowed to help plan it. (I'm sorry, but this is really frustrating!)

Maybe she is afraid that I would pick out a cutesy theme that doesn't fit with her at all.

I probably would.

I would probably pick out adorable invitations, something cute with animals or something and it would be a baby shower that was both laid back and fun. But then if I was really hosting it it, then we would also be friends. And we are most certainly not. She doesn't do cute, she is about as sterile as they come. And she has a strict idea of what she will accept for the shower. I felt at times I am just doing it in name alone. Then I remember that I am actually paying for it and providing the planning/labor for the party.

That is probably the biggest problem for me. This is why you should be friends with the person you are planning the baby shower for. Right now, I have been provided with a laundry list of things that can and can't be included in the party. One of the things on the list, and it was underlined as if I am incapable of understanding the instructions: "No stupid games!" I mean, this is a baby shower, they stupid games are sort of part of it. And if it is supposed to be a gender reveal then games are an understood aspect of the celebration to begin with.

While we are on the topic of gender reveal showers – maybe your opinion is different – but I find them sort of egotistical. The whole point of inviting guests to the shower is so that they can bring things for the baby. And while you can do that with gender neutral clothes and stuff, it really should be made public knowledge so that the guests can contribute their part to the shower.

I suggested a "bring a book shower." Which is also gender neutral but she doesn't think that baby will be big on books. Sorry SiL but the baby won't be big on books because you aren't big on them.

Seriously, if this woman reads more than one book a year I would be totally surprised. My brother is also not big on reading, so there is little hope that the baby will get a lot of literary stimulation. At least not from them. I plan to go all in when I am asked to babysit. Which if I can instill the desire to learn in my niece/nephew I will consider it a victory. And since it was my aunt (father's side) that encouraged me it would sort of be cool to pass it along.

Things became a more ranty than I had originally intended.

Actually, I had told myself that I wouldn't, that I would stick to the facts, and present my case. Alright, that didn't go as planned I, but it also feels better to get it off of my chest. Because as of today, the only person who has made the effort to listen to me is my husband.

This really got a lot longer than I thought that it would.

I guess you could say that the idea of hosting a baby shower, while in theory is actually quite exciting, it really isn't that great if you get shoved into it. On the bright side, it will all be over in a couple of months. And that is something I am also looking forward to!